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I really hate writing bummer posts, but I thought my readers should know what is going on.
My Father-In Law last week was diagnosed with Mantel Cell Lymphoma stage B. His body is basically being over run by this cancer and there is no cure. There are treatments out there that can help to slow the process, but not cure it.
The doctor told my Father-In-Law that if he doesn't try any kind of treatment he would give him six months tops to live. They do have a treatment they will start next week, that is suppose to be less hard on the body than chemotherapy. The doctor said that if his body does not reject the treatment it could slow down the Mantel Cell enough that he could live 2-3 years.
The awful thing is that if my Father-In-Laws body does reject the the treatment, we wont know for about 2 months. My Father-In-Law also made it very clear to the doctor and his children he does not want to continue with the treatment if it makes him really ill and so on. He would rather spend what part of his life he would have left, to being able to some what enjoy it.
There is more with other family members:
We got a phone call last night that one of my husbands Uncle's had just died in the Hospital. He had just been admitted into the Hospital a couple of nights before.
My husband is the youngest of 8 children. All the family pretty much lives here in Minnesota, but one brother lives in Montana, he moved there years ago. My husband gets him on the phone to tell him that their one Uncle has just passed away, just to find out his brother is not doing well either.
The one brother in Montana has MS, the only sibling who does have this. He is not doing good at all, my husband told me when he got off the phone.
We are in for a very rough and rocky road and it seems we are speeding down this road at a very high rate of speed.
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7 hours ago
15 comments:
I am very sorry this is happening to you. I know what it's like to lose people to cancer, and so I am praying for you and and your family. I just thought I'd stop by and thank you for visiting my site. I hope all is well.
Britt
Thank you so much, it means a lot.
You are very welcome and thank you for your visit and support.
that is very sad .I pray that everything will be fine.Just hope for the best.
Laurie: There are a multitude of cancer support systems out there. You should definitely get some support for not only your husband and you, but for his family, too.
Here are only a few: http://www.cancercare.org/get_help/loved_one.php, http://www.gildasclub.org/, http://www.livestrong.org/site/c.khLXK1PxHmF/b.2661019/k.8FE9/Cancer_Support.htm?utm_source=Google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=Acancersupport&utm_term=0D0Q0F, and many, many more.
Don't try to go this alone when there is so much help out there for you and your family.
Very sorry for your family and you. Once is enough to have to deal with, but twice at the same time...that's a lot. My daughter passed away 2 years ago so I know where you're coming from...
@ Bikran, thank you very much.
@ Lakelandmom, thanks for the links, that is a very good idea, for sure.
@ Don, thank you and I am sorry for your loss, how awful.
All of your comments and support mean a great deal to me.
Hi. I am so sorry to hear about all the sad things happening in your family. I know your father-in-law is the one you and your husband have to come to terms with in the nearest future. I hope he will be able to enjoy the rest of whatever time he has, and I hope you all will get through this OK.
Thank you randomreflection, I pray that we have some peace through the days to come. I am really concerned about my husband, he is not one to really say how he feels, with intense situations like this. So my goal has been making sure we talk at least a little about it. also making sure we stay focused with our two year old. our son is so perceptive and I know he will and is picking up on the stress and change.
I'm really sorry about all of this. And, believe me, I really understand. My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer two years ago and given 1-3 years. He's been fighting it ever since, but his quality of life has been poor and I'm not sure the extra time is worth the misery he's been through.
Thank You Jen and I am so very sorry for you and your father as well.
I know that is what we are all afraid of is that the treatments will make him sick or prolong his life and make him miserable.
He starts the treatments this Friday, so only time will tell I guess. He went in for surgery today to put the tube in his chest and that went alright, so far.
So sorry you are having to go through this right now. We went through the same thing with my father last December. He passed away on Christmas Day...which was awful. I'm sending prayers your way!
Thanks you Carol and I am sorry for your loss.
Again I can't say it enough, thank you all for your support, comments and prayers.
For the sake of not sounded to mushy, I sit here and read the comments and I am almost in tears for two reasons.
First is from the support of all of you.
Second from how much hurt and pain some of you have gone through and still are going through yourselves with your loved one struggling through or the loss of your loved one from cancer.
My prayers and thoughts with all of you as well.
I'm so sorry to hear about the bad news, on both counts. So much to deal with all at once. You and yours will be in my thoughts and prayers. Take good care.
my sister died because of cancer,so i can understand your filling. when we know someone will love will going to leave us forever, that's will so hurt
@ Catatonic Kid, Thanks you so much for your comment and support.
@ Scients I am sorry for the loss of your sistser, and the best thing we can do is try to stay strong, as best as possible.
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